Episode 7: Romance in Your Marriage Part 3 of 4: Romance - Let's Get Away!!

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Romance in Your Marriage Part 3 of 4: Romance - Let’s get away!!

Episode 007

February 18, 2019

Introduction

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  3. Part 3 of our 4 part series on Romance In Your Marriage “Let’s get away!!

Discussion


Why is a getaway important?

  • It gives you something to look forward to

  • To reconnect

  • To celebrate your marriage

    • This may be a new concept for you.

    • Parents never took vacations together

    • Leaving a legacy for legacy

  • To make new memories

What should we do on our getaway?

  • Sex

    • Corinthians 7:1-4 “Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.”
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  • Set goals

  • Spend time doing things you enjoy doing together

  • Try something new

  • REST!!!

    • Mark 6:30-31” The apostles gathered around Jesus and reported to him all they had done and taught. Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.””

    • We are a society that’s busier than ever these days.

      • Kids are constantly on the go.

      • Ministry

      • Work

How long should a getaway last?

  • We recommend at least 3-4 days (but shoot for as long as possible)-it may take you 1 whole day for travel and just to unwind from the last few months or year depending on how long it’s been since your last getaway.

  • If you go to a conference try to go a day or 2 ahead and/or stay a day or two later

  • As important as the number of days are, and they are, the quality of the time is just as important.

Who goes on the getaway?

  • Husband and wife only

    • This says to your spouse you are important to me. I want to spend this time with you.

  • You can plan a family vacation and include the kids later.

Where should we go?

  • Personal choice

    • Conferences

      • Good for getting refreshed in the Word on how to be married God’s way.

    • Cruises

    • All inclusive resort

    • Different cities or states

    • Favorite hotels

    • To see or do something on your Bucket List


What should we do to prepare?

  • Pray/Fast ahead of time.

    • John 10:10  “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” ‭‭

  • Plan ahead financially (spending plan)

  • Make sure you get passports way ahead of time if you’re leaving the country

  • Have backup plans for childcare/petcare


What should we take?

  • As little as possible

  • Music


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Transcript

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[00:59] Welcome again to Sam and Erica's Marriage Podcast. This is our seventh episode seven yes, we are knocking'em down ya'll. Seven, in this episode, we're going to be continuing our conversation on romance in our marriage. We're going to be talking about the importance of a getaway. Yes, the getaway, the all important getaway. Before we get to that though, we do want to just again, thank you for tuning in, for listening. We really appreciate all of the support that you guys have been giving us and we really appreciate you taking the time to listen. We also wanted to remind you to go ahead and click that subscribe button. We've been talking about that for a couple of episodes. It's okay to subscribe. It didn't cost you anything. It's free. Just means you're going to get the next episode as soon as it's released.

[01:54] If you guys liked date night, this is going to be date night on steroids. Okay! So sit back, relax and enjoy the show. Okay, so the date night on steroids is the getaway. Getting a way is super important. It's something that healthy married folk ought to do on a regular basis. We ask why, why is it so important to get away? Like what can I, what is the significance of getting away? And when Erica and I were talking about this, a couple of things came to mind. The first thing is it gives you something as a couple to look forward to. You know that that's really important. I'm pretty sure when you guys first got married, you couldn't wait. Yeah. The wedding was all great and all that, but I'm sure the honeymoon was high on the list. You looked forward to the

[02:49] honeymoon. You looked forward to spending some time together, some one on one. That's why getting away is important. Something to look forward to. It also gives us an opportunity, kind of like that honeymoon. It gives us an opportunity to connect and if you're further along in your marriage, of course we're not connecting, we're reconnecting. you know, to get away from work, to get away from home. And the running of our household, that re-connection opportunity is, though date night is a great opportunity to reconnect. That getaway is, as Erica described it. It's that same opportunity but at a whole nother level.

[03:34] It's also a way for us to celebrate our marriage. This may be a new concept for, for some of you, I know I didn't grow up in a household where my parents celebrated each other. Um, so this is all new to me. Parents just never took a vacation together. And this is also important when I think about it, it helps, you know, we leave a legacy for our children. Okay. We teach our children that it's important to celebrate one another, to make each other a priority, uh, to make the marriage a priority. And our children tend to do what they see us do. So then it allows them, you know, they can carry on this same legacy in their family and then pass it down to their children and so on and so on.

[04:18] That's a great point. We also take those getaways, those getaways can kind of forge, uh, some of our greatest memories, you know, and, and memories are so important. We have a unique opportunity on those getaways where it's just Erica and I or you and your spouse to really create some great memories, things that you'll be able to take with you for the rest of your life in and out of each and every season of your life. So those are just a few of the reasons why we thought that getaway is so much more important than we think. We automatically think we just want to, you know, uh, just hit the road or we just want to, to do something a little out of the ordinary but there are really some things that we really need in the getaway. So what should we do on our getaway?

[05:16] That's the first, that's the next question we got why we need a get away. Now we're talking about what should we do on the getaway? What should we do on our getaway? Well, I hate to be stereotypical male. Uh, and actually this, this wasn't my idea to lead with this one. No, it was my idea, I take full responsibility. Yeah, tell them the truth Sam. One of the things that we should do on our getaway is have sex. We should. Husband and wife. We talked about reconnecting sexual intimacy is as, there is no reconnect like the re-connection of sexual intimacy. A lot of times when we're in life, day to day, uh, raising families, you know, on the other side of that wall is your daughters room. You know, the granddaughters room, things are kind of restricted. So having the opportunity where you can just get away and enjoy each other in that way is a great way to reconnect.

[06:31] I think too, it actually, this whole environment gives us freedom that we wouldn't normally have inside of our household. I don't, you know, say we have other family members there, so that's what it does. It really gives us freedom and then it gives us the opportunity to kind of focus on one another. You know, we really getting back to the intimacy and you know, we just really get to to focus on one another. Sensuality. Yeah. Yeah. I get that. And this actually brings to mind the scripture in chapter seven of 1 Corinthians, that reads "the husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but yields it to her husband. In the same way the husband does not have authority over his own body, but yields it to his wife".

[07:26] And this mutual submission in the sexual intimacy is one of those things that can really be forged in new ways when you get away. You know it's something about that getaway, you know, you good. I hate to say, but something like a cruise ship, not putting any pressure on anybody. You don't have to go on a cruise. But uh, you know you start feeling a little frisky, you know, start feeling a little spry, feeling little sexy, you know, it's just me. The Sun is shining, you know, you feel the cool breeze from the beach, you know, all of those things. Nobody's around. Okay. You gotta stop. No neighbors. We got a podcast.

[08:13] This is going to be date night on steroids. I told you having little flashback. Listen, let's get focused. Okay, okay focus. So yes, that is absolutely a thing that we should do. Married couples ought to be having a whole lot more sex than we're having. And a getaway can be one of the things that can kind of get that thing going again. Right. Even if it's going where you kind of get on a different level, right. Yeah. So those are some of the sex piece. Similar to some things that we've talked about in some previous episodes is setting goals or kind of sharing your dreams with each other. You know, that's one of those, that's one of those things that kind of happens on a get away. You know, once you kind of unplug from work and you've unplugged from the bills and you're not thinking about the mortgage day two of a getaway, you know?

[09:06] Yeah. It takes a couple of days. You know, the two of you've just had an intimate time, you just kinda hanging out. Those kinds of conversations really do kinda get sparked during those times. We also, uh, recommend that on a getaway we spend time doing things that we enjoy doing together. That's really important. You know, there would be nothing worse than the two of you deciding to go on a vacation and then you don't see each other. You know, you want to find things that you do, that you enjoy doing together. Uh, one of the things that we do often when we're away is we seek out restaurants because we both like to eat. Love to eat. Yeah. So we'll seek out restaurants, we'll talk to people, find out what's good, you know, what a city or a place may have as a specialty and we'll kind of seek those things out together.

[09:59] This is also an opportunity to take advantage of the, the person who's emotional need is the recreational companionship. Um, you know, this, like Sam said, gives you the opportunity to kind of get an idea of some things that you like to do together, something that you've always wanted to do. I know Sam and I went on a cruise a few years ago and I thought I wanted to snorkel. I love snorkeling. I love it. That didn't work. Yes, I snorkeled the whole time we were there, like everywhere we went. I thought it was a great idea. We signed up for the excursion we went out on the catamaran. It was beautiful the sun was shining, the water was blue and we got out there and yeah, I couldn't let go of the string out and on the, what was it the reef? Yeah, we were out on a reef. I couldn't let go of the, the string. I couldn't quite get off the boat. So that's ok. Yeah. I let it go and got back on the catamaran. You tried something new. I did, I tried something new. It wasn't for you. It wasn't for you, I had a great time. He did. I had a great time. It seemed like you had a great time too. I did. I enjoy watching you out there. I thought I was so proud of you. Yeah.

[11:17] Okay. Probably as important as those other things are probably the most important thing I think in a getaway is taking some time to get some rest. Our lives are so busy, we've got so many responsibilities, so much pressure. If we don't take a little time to get away from some of those things to decompress, to really, really just rest, I think we would waste a perfectly good opportunity. We end up back at home picking up right where we left off and we're no better off. We're actually probably a little more little worse for wear then we would have been. Right because we spent all that time busy, busy, busy, and then we didn't get a chance to decompress and we took everything with us and we're bringing that stuff right back home. So that is, that is not a good thing. The word actually says in Mark 6 30-31 "the apostles gathered around Jesus and reported to him

[12:23] all they had done and taught, then because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." So that's actually biblical. Um, you know, we're required, we're supposed to get some rest, we're actually supposed to be celebrating a sabbath. We're supposed to have a day where we just calm down, decompress, remove ourselves from everything and just refresh and get some rest. Giving us the energy that we need to take on the next week's tasks. That's good Bae. Like Erica was saying, you know, as busy as we are. One of the things that I always have to uh, touch on, and you talked about it when we were preparing is also a ministry, you know? Yeah, we're busy at work. Yeah, we're busy with the kids, but a lot of Christians are busy at church. You know, and, and those things, that's really in some of your recreation time, this is after you've worked, now you're doing this thing with your ministry, with your church, and those things add to the business of our lives and they really do kind of make the sabbath or an opportunity to rest that much more important.

[13:37] We can also tend to, you know, just get crazy with being busy. We add additional things to our schedule because we think that we have extra time or that we're not busy enough. And then, you know we're just too busy. We need to take some time. Too busy. So then we talk about what the length of a getaway is. Like um, in a couple there's generally a spender and a saver or a spender and a thrifty person, a spender and a cheap person. The cheap person always wants to get away to be shorter. Because why I wonder. Because he's cheap. Okay. You guys might, some of y'all already know who this is and in Sam and Erica. Uh, huh. So he's like, I think a get away is like the trip to Walmart. That was, we got away, no kids around. Out of town, technically. Technically we had to go into the next suburb.

[14:47] That was the getaway. That's not, not to the getaway. No, no, no! The get away, we recommend a get away should be, you know, at least three, four days. And this isn't something that we can all do all the time, but it is something that we can plan. You know, we can plan a three to four day, get away. As we were preparing again, uh, the thought always hits me that to get away should be as long as we can really logistically pull this thing off. Whether your logistics issues are where are you going or cost or how much time you're allowed to be off, away from work. Whatever your logistics are to try to make it as long as you can because you need the rest more than likely and you need an opportunity to reconnect. Right!

[15:41] The last thing you want to do is while you're away, you know, say you choose three or four days or five or six days, whatever day you choose, you want to make sure Sam mentioned this when we were preparing, that you, the quality of your time is much more important than the quantity of your time. You know, it's okay to say you got away for seven days just for the sake of saying, I got away for seven days. But if you get away for seven days and you don't really connect with your husband or with your wife and you're just as tired as you were when you left, if not more, then you completely defeated the purpose. You know, you come back much more weary then you were when you left. So, you know, and we say, you know, you want to give yourself some time to kind of unwind, um, travel time and then on the front end and then travel time and everything on the back-end. So you want to give yourself as much time as possible. I'm always for as long as possible, however,

[16:42] my husband takes into consideration hotels stay, rental car stay. Yeah. Each day. Food, three meals. Yeah.

[16:52] So we kinda generally come up with a compromise, but you know, those are real things that we can, that we really should be taking it to consideration.

[17:00] Absolutely. So when you put it all together, it's really your, as long as you can, if you're the spender, you wouldn't want to be out on his getaway and the saver is freaking out. Like the saver can't enjoy him or herself because they're freaked out about how much more these additional days are costing. Right. So you really want to bring everything together and you really want to decide to go for as long as you realistically can. Considering all of those things. Nobody wants to take a few extra days and be fired when they get back. That is true. You know, you want to take as much time as you can take without losing your job. Right? Okay,. Or without breaking the bank. Or without breaking the bank. So a rule about the getaway, who goes on the get away? Now, this should be simple. You guys have been listening to Sam and Erica's marriage podcast for a little while now.

[17:56] A couple months. You can probably guess what we're going to say. Who goes on the getaway? You and your spouse. It's not the getaway if you're taking your kids. It's not the getaway if you're taking your parents. It's not to get away if you're going with another couple. The getaway is about you and your spouse. There should be a time where you and another couple or two where you guys go and do something, you know, out of town, out of country, whatever. That's wonderful! We've done that and it's been a blast, but that's not our getaway. Right! Our getaway is something separate.

[18:41] The reason why it's husband and spouse, I mean husband and wife, it's really because it's saying to your spouse, I love you. I want to be with you. I want to spend time with you. I want to reconnect with you. You know, I need the intimacy. That's really what it says to your spouse and when you're saying those things to your spouse in action and word also, but in action, it makes that getaway that much sweeter. I know people who will not go on and get away without their children and their marriage is, and I'm not going to say that there was anything wrong with their marriage, but I'm quite sure it could be that much sweeter

[19:25] if it were just husband and wife. Yeah, I mean, you need you need that time. You need that time. Like your relationship needs that time. If you do have children or any kind of extended family that you would want to take on a vacation, you can do that too. That's a separate thing. That's not this getaway we're talking about. Right! This getaway is about you and your girl. You and your dude. This is about a husband and a wife disconnecting from everything, fallen off the map for a few days and just being into each other. There'll be time for the kids, they'll be time for friends, there'll be time for parents. But this time is about you and your spouse. Right! So where do we go? That's the million dollar question. Often times one of the spouses will actually make it a million dollar proposition says the cheap one. So. I wanna go to Saint Lucia so bad. Yeah. St. Lucia is high on the list, it's the most expensive place in the Caribbean. I Just want to go so bad. So that's really a personal choice. I think Erica wants to go to Saint Lucia. I'm just as happy at my favorite hotel downtown. It has nothing to do with me being cheap.

[20:56] But it does. It does not, I just like that spot. And it is a, don't get me wrong it is a nice hotel. Yeah. But sometimes getting away from your normal environment kind of aids in the getaway. Yes, it does. We've been to a very nice five star hotel, five star restaurant, beautiful, 10 minutes away from our house and it was beautiful. But you actually had to come back home to get something that we left. That's true. So you know, it kinda didn't ruin it for me. It didn't, but it's sometimes it's not a bad idea to kind of go away. I got it. I got it. Yeah.

[21:38] So both of those are options, but there are also some other options. One of the things that in our circle, because we do spend a lot of time at our church or, or dealing with a lot of our friends are people that we attend church with conferences like improvement marriage conferences. We have had some great getaways around marriage conferences. We have. A couple of years ago, we actually went to quite a few in a year. That was like one of the things we wanted to get out and do as we were kind of, I guess cultivating the seeds for this thing that we're doing right now. And some of those were some great getaways, but uh, Erica pointed out that we were, had to be intentional about adding some extra days to those things. Right!

[22:21] Because they can, you know, conferences are great, but conferences can be busy. You get there and then you know, you, you go listen to the speaker for two days and then it's time to come home. Well, you really didn't have any time to connect. So I think getting there a day or two ahead of time or even leaving a day or two later works perfectly. And we're going to, you know, we have a couple ideas for places to go, but I just want to throw this out there and don't send me any emails but the family reunion, that's not a getaway. That is not a getaway. I know, I know that they are, those of us who love the family reunion and a lot of times it's the only way for the family to get out and have a vacation I get that. Not the getaway. But it's not,

[23:06] the getaway. It is not to get away. No. Our favorite, or at least my favorite, um, I thought that it was your favorite two Bae is cruises. I like cruises. It is nothing like cruising. Cruising is great. There's also all inclusive resorts. And I like the idea of checking off something on your bucket list. You know, there, there are some places that you do, you always say, do you want it to go? There's some things that you've always wanted to see. Making those destinations part of your get away can be a really cool way to share that thing with your spouse, you can have like a two for one. You're building some intimacy because you're sharing this thing that you've always wanted to do and now you're doing it with the person that you would rather be spending that time with more than any other person. So that's, that's like a two for one I think. And you know, another getaway that we do a lot is we'll just get in a car and we'll drive to a different city. You know, we've got a couple of cities that are within let's say four hours from us, uh, just by where we're situated, where we can go for three days. You know, we both take an extra day on a, tack it onto a weekend and we have a great little getaway.

[24:29] And those are fun. Yeah. You know, there's nothing wrong with, and of course we're saying conferences and we were saying cruises and we're saying your favorite hotels, we're saying, you know, do something on the bucket list. But even a get away can be a spontaneous, hey babe, let's pack a bag and get in the car and drive. You know, somebody takes care of the childcare, the pet care and you just kind of get in the car and you drive. We did that one year we went to the Amish country and I had, we had a great time. The drive, it was perfect Fall, the leaves were turning. It was, it was really beautiful. We had a lot. We had a lot of fun. It was only maybe three or four days, but we still got a chance to get away and we were refreshed when we came back. Yes.

[25:10] And a lot of, uh, a lot of rest. A lot of let's just say a lot of rest. All right. Uh, okay. So how do you prepare for this thing? Now, you know, we have to plan ahead financially. We do. That's important. Right! Not the most important thing though. It's important to make sure that you plan ahead, that you get it in the spending plan. But uh, Erica pointed out one thing that was really, really important that I hadn't even thought about. You want to share that

[25:43] I do. I actually think that it's important for us to pray and or maybe fast before we go on a getaway with our spouse. And of course if it's one of those spontaneous trips a fast may not be, you may not have the opportunity to do that, but if it, you definitely want to pray ahead of time. You know, spiritual warfare, I am a firm believer and Sam will tell you in spiritual warfare, it's real. It's real. And you know, John 10:10 says that "the thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life and have it to the full". You know, the enemy. I believe that the enemy does not want to see us successful in our marriages. You know, the last thing that he wants to see us a successful, having successful families for the kingdom, he just doesn't want to see that.

[26:34] So anything can happen. We could have a thought that will ruin the trip. Somebody could buy the wrong bag of chips and it'll ruin the trip. I mean, it really is. It's that serious. So we definitely want to be, you know, we want to pray, we pray ahead of time anyway when we get on the road, you know, just for safety. But we definitely want to pray that, you know, the God would just meet us there. You know, that we would have a good time, that we will reconnect. And I believe that that is important.

[27:02] And Yeah, I agree and when you when you mentioned it was really powerful. I agree with you 100%. Another thing that, a more practical or not more practical, but a tangible thing that we have to do is if we're going out of the country, even Mexico or Canada, certainly, you know, you start talking about Trans Atlantic or you know, uh, places where you need visas to enter, you really want to make sure that you get those kinds of things taken care of ahead of time, passports critical. And the last thing you want to do is be waiting, checking the mail every day a day ahead, two days before the trip and a passport is not in, something you got to do ahead of time. Another thing you got to do ahead of time is make sure you take care of those child care needs and pet care and pet care. Not a pet person, but yes, I know you guys love your pets, so I won't say anything bad about pets.

[27:59] We actually had a cat that belong to our daughter and when we, it was our cat. We bought it for her, but we took care of, we did. She went away to school. We had the cat and we had to make sure Sasha had her water her food. Shortened all of our trips.

[28:14] It was, yeah. Yeah, yeah. She was a good cat though and she's gone. She's not with us any longer. She's alive, I hope, but she's not with us any longer. All right, moving on. Packing. That's a good one. One of the things that we, it takes a little time to get it right when you figure how much should I take on this getaway and we've had some very interesting trips as it related to how much we should or should not pack.

[28:45] Well, I don't know if you guys have heard this before, but I like a shoe or two, so we went on a cruise and you know, of course with the flights, the airlines require a certain amount of baggage and so my baggage was a little over the weight. Okay, a lot. Oh yeah tell the whole truth. Right. I had to take some of my things, put 'em in Sam's suitcase it was because I had way too many shoes. An entire bag of shoes. Yeah, it was. It was a lot. But I like a shoe and ladies, you know, we have to have a shoe for our morning. We have to have a shoe for our afternoon. We have to have a shoe for our evening.

[29:31] She had to take shoes and out them in my bag. I did. Cause her shoe bag was full. It was, yes, but I had the right shoe for every occasion. I'm sure you did. A lot of those occasions we did not encounter. Yes, but that's okay. But that story kind of evolved into what is currently our strategy when we pack for getaways and that is, take as little as possible. Because that makes for some good getaways. We told you this is going to be date night on steroids. You pack as little little as possible. Because why? Because the purpose of the getaway is to get away, get away, to relax, to be in, to enjoy each other. You pack what you have to take and you enjoy the rest. One thing that we always make sure to, no matter what we're doing, no matter how we're going is that we do something about the music.

[30:35] We got to have our beats with us. You know, whether it's you know that travel music and we're both, you know, plugged into a phone, you know Bluetooth-in or you know that Luther Vandross for when the sun goes down. You know what, whatever the mood is, we've got to make sure we have our music so we make sure we take that, packing is important. It can really make a, it can make a trip. It can and I have to say that Sam is real good about making sure that we have that Bluetooth speaker. You know we have certain playlist or he has certain playlists for certain times of the day. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. It was like, you know, like a jazzy one maybe mid afternoon, a slower one in the evening when the sun goes down. Little upbeat, you know in the afternoon morning kind of thing.

[31:26] He's real good at that and guys too, one of the thing that Sam did for me one year was he gave me a gift a day when we went on a cruise. If you want to get your girls good graces, you may want to do that because it filled up my Pandora bracelet. It was this cool. Yeah. So that's the getaway. The getaway is super important. It's as Erica coined it's date night on steroids. It will be the equivalent of quite a few date nights. You kind of feel each other's tanks. You really get a opportunity for some long term emotional needs meeting. You get the opportunity for an extended period of time to pour into your spouse, to be ministered to by your spouse. The getaway is super important and super fun. It also, um, I don't know if we, we didn't mention this, but it does a couple of things.

[32:29] It will add to your date night because of course you're going to come back, we talked about making memories. You're going to come back and you're going to talk about, remember when we did that, I remember when so and so and remember and remember that picture. So that'll give you something to talk about. And it'll also ignite, we talked about fanning the flames last episode, but it will take those flames to a whole nother level when you come back refreshed and you, you have that glow because you had the opportunity to spend that time with your spouse, with your husband, with your wife, no interruptions, no email, no phone, no kids. It will do wonders to your relationship. Agree, 100% so that's the getaway. Each week we kind of have a couple of things we ask, why do I always say a couple? It's never a couple.

[33:17] You do your best. We have a few things to ask and these are mostly things you've heard before. If you've listened to us before, the first and foremost is that we want, we would ask that you would partner with us in prayer. That you as a listener would pray for us and pray for this podcast. Erica and I pray for you. Every time we sit down and we do something with this podcast, we're praying for you, the person that's going to be listening and we just ask that you would put us on your prayer list. Uh, we also want to remind you not to forget to subscribe. Just click that button every week when new episodes come out, even if a bonus episode comes out, you'll get that episode updated into your player. It'll be waiting on you when you get there. And we also want you to share the podcast if you're enjoying the podcast.

[34:04] Yeah, it's one thing to tell someone, but we're asking that you would actually break out your phone and text seasonsministries.org/podcast to two people that you think might enjoy the podcast. And last but not least, you know, we have an action assignment for you when you go on your date night this week talk about the getaway. You know, if you, if it's something that you've thought about before and you just kept putting it on the back burner, bring it up again. Share some ideas. And if you, if this is your normal way of life, if you're husband and wife and you take getaways all the time, we want you to share that with us. We want to get some ideas, some places that you've gone, some things you've done, and just, you know, don't forget to put a comment in the comment section. You know, go to the website, leave a voicemail, or leave a comment on any platform that you listen to. And I really hope you guys enjoyed this episode because we had a good time, as always, as always. God bless. God bless.